I wrote a previous blog post on how to help people who are negative, narcissistic and self-centered. Isn’t it possible that you yourself are the one with a persistently negative outlook? In this article, I’ll show you how to get yourself out of a bad mood permanently, rather than just for a short period of time. Using depression as an example, but the process is applicable to other chronic negative emotions such as anger, worry, resentment, and so forth.
Depression: A Comprehensive Guide
From the outside, it may appear as if depressed people have valid reasons for their feelings of sadness. A reasonable person might look at your situation and say, “Yup, that’s depressing,” if you’re dealing with a lack of money or health issues or other unwelcome obstacles.
If you think your problems aren’t bad enough, don’t take it from me. I, on the other hand, believe that you have every right to be depressed because of your current situation. As someone who’s been in your shoes, I can empathize with your situation. There is nothing worse than living a life filled with negative outcomes and having no control over it. I’ve been there myself. Later, I’ll tell a story about that experience.
Please know that I am sorry if you’re currently in this situation. I also have a solution to share with you, but that’s the most important part. There is a workable solution to the problem you’re facing, and I believe you are aware of this. Despite what you may believe, your depression is not permanent. If you take the time to understand and apply this solution, with the energy you have remaining, it will work. A partial implementation will yield partial results because this isn’t an all-or-nothing proposition. The best part is that you don’t have to do anything physically. Laying motionless on your bed, you can complete the entire process.
After overcoming your depression for good, you will be able to help a lot of other people with your experience. In spite of how difficult it is right now, you may look back on these times as a tremendous blessing in the future. I can attest to the fact that this is true for me.
This passage from The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran contains some profound truths:
Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
What really causes depression?
Allow me to be crystal clear. You’re not depressed because of your current situation. You’re depressed because of the attention you’re paying to it. If you’re depressed, it’s not because your life is filled with things you don’t want. It’s only when you focus your attention on a negative situation that you become depressed. Your circumstances have no power over you if you don’t pay attention to them, no matter how bad they appear.
Consider the following: Think about the situation where you’re in debt with no end in sight and you despise it. It’s only depressing to consider how much money you owe. At least for a short time, you won’t be depressed if you focus your thoughts on something that makes you happy. So your depression isn’t caused by your debt. You’re only depressed because you’re aware of and unwilling to accept your debt.
Another example: If you’re feeling isolated, you can try this:. There is a void in your life because of the lack of an intimate relationship. If you’re feeling lonely, is it because of the breakup of your relationship? For some people, feeling alone is a symptom of their inability to find the kind of connection they long for. No, you don’t remember being lonely when you’re engrossed in a good movie or a compelling book. It’s only a matter of time before your feelings of loneliness return if you look up and realize you’re all alone or if you see a happy couple and compare your situation to theirs,
You may think this is too simplistic or even pointless, but please bear with me for a moment. You and I both know that the only time you are depressed is when you focus on the negative aspects of your life, such as a lack of money, a strained romantic relationship, or poor health. However, and this is critical: The root of your sadness has nothing to do with your current situation. What’s really causing your depression is the way you pay attention… specifically, the way you focus on the things you don’t want. Having chronic depression, it is likely that what you don’t want is what you’re actually experiencing. You are depressed because you can’t help but focus on the things you already have.
Depression is a snare that is difficult to escape.
For this reason, depression is so pernicious. Depression becomes self-reinforcing once you’ve reached a point where you’re not getting what you want and you keep focusing on that fact. The situation in which you find yourself is extremely precarious.
Because of the devious nature of the mistake you are making that is causing you to remain depressed, you may think you’re just being clever, when in fact you’re being quite stupid. Many of you may assume it’s just common sense to keep a cool head under pressure and respond rationally to the situation at hand. You’d also be mistaken. Using that approach when you’re depressed is probably the worst idea you could have. That’s why millions of people suffer from depression, despite the fact that it defies logic. Think rationally and you’ll fall into the trap. This is why even the most intelligent people can fall into a deep depression and eventually take their own lives. In spite of their best efforts, their depression continues to ensnare them despite their best efforts to reason their way out. Depression worsens as you try to think your way out of it.
In the face of exhaustion and exhaustion, many people give up and resort to medication, alcohol, drugs, TV or video games or other habits that reduce their awareness in order to feel better for a short time. Of course, none of this is going to fix the underlying problem. They tend to make things worse. If you want to get out of debt, build a relationship with someone you love, or improve your health, don’t run away from your problems.
Antidepressant Vision is the Answer.
To most people, the answer to depression is a no-brainer, but only if you’re already living according to the principles of the Law of Attraction. The solution is to redirect your focus away from the things that make you sad and toward the things that make you really happy. However, if you suffer from chronic depression, you may find that nothing in your life brings you joy. It’s possible that you’ll find yourself in a bad situation from top to bottom. In this case, you’ll need to turn your attention away from the world around you and focus on your own thoughts. You must create imaginary scenarios in your mind that make you happy when you think about them. Then you should spend more time imagining and less time observing the real world around you.
However, this may sound like escapism, but you’re not actually trying to flee. You want to create new, appealing scenarios in your head that are based on reality. Imagining a life of abundance, happiness, and well-being is a great way to get your mind off of things.
You may find this difficult at first, but with practice, you’ll get better at it. Although you’ll still need to take care of your basic needs and deal with some external issues, only the bare minimum of your attention will be devoted to these. Spend no more time on your problems than is absolutely necessary to keep your head above water. After that, spend the remainder of your time immersed in your own thoughts.
When you’re in your head, you can do whatever you want. You’re free to do whatever you want. Think about the things that bring you joy. Enjoy them as if they were real. Make a model of the house of your fantasies. Take a trip around the globe. Create a group of friends who are perfect for you. Imagine a relationship that is ideal for you. Become a superhero and save the world at once.
Self-compassion is key. Keep returning to your positive mental creations and expanding them if you find yourself worrying about your problems. It is in my opinion preferable to begin by establishing new locations. The more time I spend thinking about them, the more detail I add. I’m constantly tweaking them to make them better.
Imagine a 100-acre estate that you can walk through in your mind. It’s a place where I can swim in the imaginary pool or play tennis or work out in the gym. I can also sit down to a private meeting in my office, run along the perimeter wall, or relax in the meditation lounge. Even with the persistent characters that live there, I can have interesting conversations. Because it’s become so ingrained in my memory, this location stands out above all the others I’ve visited. And I can get to it whenever I like. When I’m meditating, I tend to load it up and spend some time expanding on it.
How does this help with depression?
The more time you spend thinking about things that make you happy instead of things that make you sad, the sooner your depression will lift. Your depression will lift more quickly if you alter your thinking patterns. Spending more time thinking about what makes you happy and less time thinking about what depresses you will naturally result in this.
While it’s nice to have your spirits lifted, what about your current predicament? It’s possible that despite feeling better, you’re still buried under a mountain of issues. Don’t worry, I’m here to help. If you adopt this strategy, you’ll be on your way to a better situation as well.
There are two ways that things will get better for you. First and foremost, you’ll be more motivated to take action to help yourself as a result of your improved health. In contrast to depression, positive emotions have the power to inspire and motivate you. Depressed people are far less likely to take the necessary steps to get themselves out of debt. As your depression subsides, you’ll begin to think about possible solutions to your problems.
When you’re in a positive state of mind, you’ll notice that the Law of Attraction will help you manifest more positive outcomes in your life. I can’t claim to understand how this works, but I’ve seen it work enough times to be confident in its efficacy. When you focus on what you want and feel good about it, you attract it to you in ways that can’t be explained by your actions alone. Your luck seems to improve.
Your bleak circumstances will be completely transformed if you combine your own efforts with those of the Law of Attraction. Thinking about and feeling good about your goals is necessary for this to work.
A real-world case study
Using an example from my own life, I’ll demonstrate how this whole process works.
I was arrested for felony grand theft when I was 19 years old. Upon returning home from three days in jail, I was also expelled from school. Since this was my third offense in less than 18 months, it seemed like the most likely outcome was that I would spend the next year or two of my life in prison. According to my recollection, I was still on probation from a previous offense.
My life was not going well at the time. Managing the stress of the situation was difficult for me. I was emotionally paralyzed by the knowledge that I was about to spend the majority of my life in prison. I entered a dark and depressive state. I stayed in bed until 2 p.m. every day, ate mostly fast food, and spent my free time playing video games, drinking alcohol, and playing poker.
My attention began to shift as my court date approached. I finally gave up my resistance to what was about to happen and accepted it. I began taking long walks in order to reflect on my current predicament. That’s going to be a real bummer,” I thought to myself as I headed toward jail. After three days in jail, I found it too painful to imagine what it would be like to be locked up again, so I started thinking about what I would do when I was released. This experience was like a fresh start for me. I’d have to start over as an adult from scratch if I got out of prison. I had fantasies about going back to school to get my computer science degree. Since the age of ten, when I first learned how to program in BASIC, I’ve had an eye toward a career as a computer programmer.
Imagining the best-case scenario made me less concerned about the prospect of going to prison and more open to new possibilities. When I was in jail, I was able to almost erase it from my mind and instead focus on where I wanted to be. In the absence of a formal education or employment, I often fantasized about going back to school to pursue a career as a computer programmer. This gave me something to look forward to even though I was still in jail.
When I finally went to court, the outcome was so miraculous that I couldn’t believe it. It was my third offense, but the court treated it as if it were a first. They had no idea what I had done before. It was assumed that this was a first-time offense by even my own lawyer. At the exact moment I was contemplating whether or not to say something, I swear I heard an inner voice say, “Keep your damned mouth shut!” However, I had to check the courtroom docket to make sure they had the correct case. There were no surprises in the deal that the charges were reduced to misdemeanor Petty Theft rather than felony Grand Theft (60 hours community service and no jail time) because of my previous experience with first-time offenders. As I entered a “no contest” plea and the case was declared closed, I tried to contain my excitement. During the two weeks that I spent picking up trash, I may have been a tad overjoyed.
Until I discovered the Law of Attraction, I had no idea what was going on. When I decided to focus on what I wanted and how I could make myself feel better despite being in a bad situation, my life took a turn for the better in ways I never imagined were possible. Rebuilding my life and getting back to work were the main goals of my year-long break following these events. It wasn’t until the following year that I returned to college, starting from scratch as a freshman and earning two B.S. degrees, in computer science and mathematics. In the articles Do It Now and 10 Tips for College Students, I talked about that experience. After that, I was able to realize my goal of becoming a computer programmer and even started my own company.
My outlook on life changed dramatically, and I no longer dwell on my past failures. In the end, this dark experience turned out to be one of the greatest gifts I’ve ever received. To put it another way, it made me a lot more confident and willing to take legal risks. The risk didn’t seem too great as long as I wasn’t going to go to jail if I failed. I started taking advantage of opportunities that had previously scared me. These perks are still available to me to this very day. Because of the ordeal I went through 15 years ago, I’m sure I’d be a much more cautious person today, guided by unfounded fears rather than awed by unfounded wonders.
I can’t imagine what my life would have been like if I hadn’t discovered the Law of Attraction in 1991. I don’t know if I sould be in jail or not right now. I may exist in a parallel universe where I am.
From long-term depression to unending happiness
Do you appreciate how fortunate you are to be free? No matter how limited your physical freedom may be, you will always have complete control over your thoughts and emotions. If you don’t realize how much control you have over your thoughts, your life can turn into a dreadful hell. If you succeed, you’ll be rewarded with a blissful paradise.
Are you still causing yourself harm by dwelling on the things you don’t want? A negative state can be created simply by being aware of what you don’t want in your life. Concentrate on what you want, even if you have no other choice but to retreat into your own fantasy. Imagination can serve as a safe haven for positive thoughts. No matter what is going on around you, you can always find a way to feel good about yourself by using your creative imagination. The Law of Attraction will kick in, and before you know it, your external reality will improve to match your thought pattern. As time goes on, your circumstances will improve to the point where simply noticing what you’re getting will make you feel great. Rather than slipping into a downward spiral of sadness, you’ll instead experience an upward spiral of happiness.
You must first alter your internal reality in order to alter your external reality.